The ‘L’ word
I have seen bad relationships. But my first and worst was watching my mother leaving father because he cheated on her. And it was the night I figured out what these fights were all about all these past months. My mom had discovered about him. My poor gullible thing believed in him all these 12 years of marriage. I couldn’t understand why would anybody cheat, why be in a marriage if you are going to cheat but something seeded in me with this unveiling. But the image of him as a hero in my head shattered into pieces. I don’t know, maybe I was just too extreme in taking that blow as it was nothing something unusual I haven’t seen in this world. They are still together faking it all. I can see the fragmentation and damage in their eyes still. But when I was taking my baby steps and was trying myself to remove the baggage that wasn’t mine, I met with another hard blow. ‘She’ was my first at 17. And like any other dumb-headed lover boy. I dream’t of having a life with her, saw that bigger picture and day-dreamed of soulmates made in heaven. I mean she was more than what I deserved and I knew it. But throughout the relationship i had extreme ups and downs there was no in-between, this happened for 4 years and it completely drained my soul to the point i stopped feeling anything let alone love, I wanted to make it work so bad, After seeing my parent, i wanted to make work so fucking bad, but something died in me, something that I haven’t regained till now. Something in me came to a standstill. No I did not cry, I mean i did cry my eyes before it happened multiple times but i when i hit that time then I did not cry. because I stopped feeling in that very instant. I don’t know maybe I knew somewhere subconsciously that this was going to happen. Never really figured it out why where others break at these moments, I was standing stronger and stronger. She was my everything at that moment and the next they were non-existing. And I put in all his efforts to get her back. I know she did. But I was really done with love. The first girl of my life sucked the love out of me that I never really felt it again. Or you can say that the fear, distrust and disappointment forced love to dwell somewhere in the darkness where I was incapable of finding it. It is not as if I didn’t try to retain love in me. But with every random the assurance of incapability grew stronger. There may be true love or whatever they call it now. But it didnt really feel like it anymore. It has been my thing ever since. The only ‘L’ word I believed onwards was Lust and not Love. Nobody made me feel ready for approaching towards love. I needed/needs patience that nobody gave. And ran like a scary little rabbit when the poachers came. Now I just tell them not to love me. They think it is some plot that I am presenting to lure them till they face the facts themselves and had to go away empty handed. I’ve seen myself leaving girls broken, because what else do you expect from someone like me but recently i met someone tho, and she kinda makes me go hehe in my chest so idk what’s that about.